Valentine’s Day is almost here—woo hoo!!! . . . and so is the much-anticipated movie, Fifty Shades of Grey. Wow, now that sounds like an incredibly romantic Valentine’s date night!
You know, can I just be honest here? Whatever you do with your spouse in the privacy of your bedroom, behind closed doors is your business. If you have to resort to s and m to get your freak on, well, that’s entirely your business. But, in the name of all things good and pure, please teach your daughters that they do not have to subject themselves to this type of demoralizing treatment. Teach them that these acts are not acts of “love”—in any universe. Teach them that they are worth more than that and don’t have to be treated like a piece of meat. Please tell them that they don’t have to submit their bodies to being disrespected and violated in the name of “love” or even “fantasy,” as far as that goes. And as for your sons, please teach them that they are to love and respect the ladies in their lives. Yes, even when they don’t act, talk, or dress like ladies! I know that stabs a knife in the huge sacred cow of feminism and what many young men think these days. I have always told our boys, if the young ladies they hang around or get close to don’t know how to behave and act like ladies, then they need to steer clear of them; because they are toxic and will destroy their life!
It’s hard enough on our teenagers, having to face all the social pressures that they feel everywhere they go. Movies/books like, Fifty Shades of Grey, only make it harder for them. It gives them yet one more thing that they are going to have to either live up to or deal with.
I know some might think this type of sexual deviance is harmless—if even, maybe “sexy.”—when done between two consenting adults. But, there are several things wrong with that line of thinking on a few different levels.
Personally, I have a problem with it for a few reasons.
Many years ago, there was a man who lived in my home town (the same time I lived there); who after several years, was caught and arrested for sexually torturing, and violently sodomizing women, mutilating multiple parts of their anatomy. (I hope you get the picture without me having to go into more graphic detail.) This sexual deviant CRIMINAL was a violent predator who lured women using alcohol and drugs to what was later discovered as his so-called “toybox.” There, in his torture chamber of devices, equipment, restraints—some he made, some ordinary household and yard tools that were used for common purposes—all were used to repeatedly and sadistically rape, and sexually torture these women for long periods of time, eventually killing them. As if it wasn’t horrifying enough, this degenerate invited others to “join the party” and participate in his gory sex games.
He would have continued to rape, sodomize, and torture other women for Lord knows how long, except for the incredible courage and survival instincts of one woman who somehow escaped his torture chamber. People found her running down road naked, delusional, and horrified. He was soon afterwards found, his “toybox” discovered, and was arrested and set to stand trial. Unfortunately, this sadistic killer died of a heart attack before he could be brought to “justice”—if there even is justice that is sufficient for his horrific sexual crimes.
When the story broke, it rocked our entire community. Things like that just don’t happen there. It wasn’t Mayberry, but pretty darn close! That’s something you watch on tv true crime programs or see in the news in larger cities like New York City or L.A., not in our little one-stoplight town. Police officers and detectives, who had to conduct the investigation of this heinous torture chamber, were horrified at what they found and witnessed with their own eyes.
For me, the scary thing was not that this happened in my hometown, but that the young man who was found and arrested as one of his co-conspirators and who participated in the sexual rape, torture, and murder of these women lived right across the street from me when I was in high school. He was caught peeping in my windows but was scared off by a boyfriend of mine.
I wouldn’t be surprised at all if this movie/book stirred up other sexual deviants just like these, arousing in a way that regular, healthy relationships should, but don’t. Consequently, they will resort to living out their own twisted, demented fantasy based on this book/movie. So, when you ask me if Fifty Shades of Grey is innocent, playful, or sexy, I say, “Absolutely not!” I would bet the women who this man from my hometown tortured using bondage and s and m didn’t think it was sexy either.
*But, by all means, let’s have small book reading parties, have some lattes, and talk about how sexy it is. Let’s take our husbands, wives, girlfriends, and boyfriends to this movie, so we can “learn” how to really treat the loved ones in our lives. Yes, please, let’s support this sadistic, violent, pornographic, and sadomasochistic movie and make the author even richer than she is right now. Let’s help make the world a better place by encouraging sexual deviance and immoral behavior that completely disregards and demoralizes others. Yes, put our daughters in even more danger when they’re at school, away at college; at a club, a restaurant, or the gym.
And, while we’re at it, we might as well help our sons better themselves by destroying their lives with rape, molestation, and sexual abuse charges that will follow them the rest of their lives, making them publicly labeled as a registered sex offender. Yeah, that will definitely help them get into college and pave the way for them to build a bright future. But, listen, Mom and Dad, be ready for “Junior” to have to live with you the rest of your lives; because he’ll have a difficult time finding a place to live who accepts registered sex offenders. Of course, they might help him with the landscaping and décor of his yard by making him put up a sign in the yard or the window saying, “A Registered Sex Offender Lives Here.” (Yes, I have seen that before.) Your future granddaughters and grandsons will for sure appreciate their actions, which will prevent them from having friends over or fun slumber parties and sleep overs. I’m sure their confidence will be strengthened when all their friends at school find out that Daddy is a registered sex offender. It is sure to turn that Fifty Shades of Grey to total blackness, as looms over their lives---all of them—for as long as they live. If you’re lucky, maybe it’ll even be passed on to the next generation. Now, that’s a real legacy of love.
By all means, let’s go see Fifty Shades of Grey! Let’s do! (*disgusted sarcasm)
I love life. I love people. I love helping people love life.